Trust – such a sweet little innocent word, but one that can bring more heartache than anyone can ever imagine. We keep spouting verses on how trust brings happiness. Lets look at it a from a different angle today. Today I am not feeling like trusting anyone.
I believe: Trust brings Betrayal … surprised. Don’t be, this is the reality of life. How many times have we confided in someone, thinking that all our deep dark secrets will remain just that, secrets, Only to find the next day that we are the main topic of discussion all over the office or school or college. Places change, scenarios change but the pain that this betrayal causes, doesn’t change. But inspite of all this we keep repeating this mistake through our life, again and again and again.
Recently someone told me that a friend is having a bad time in her relationship, I was surprised, and I asked him how he knew. He knew because he was a confidante of that girl. I asked him why he told me this. His explanation made a world of sense inspite of being so utterly lacking in sense. According to him I am a friend of that girl so he thought I should know. Now this got me worried. I have tones of friends, but I don’t go around confiding in everyone. Secrets are shared with people you think are capable of handling them with the maturity that they deserve. But what if these same people think that few others should know about them, just coz you are friends with them. Within no time everything is a public knowledge and you are left wondering what your fault in all this was.
Your friend might not necessarily be betraying you, but then intentional or not, the damage is done and you are left facing the consequences. But step aside and think why feel betrayed. Someone recently told me; “when something goes out from you, it’s no longer a secret”. Secrets are what you harbor in yourself. What really matters never go out. Does that mean that we intentionally set ourselves up for a betrayal? May be this is a human tendency to check the authenticity of a relationship.
Trust actually goes deeper than this, a simple act of squealing on your colleague, or ratting on your friend might seem like a condemnable act of betrayal, but thinking rationally you will realize that it wasn’t even important. What is today’s news always become history tomorrow. What seemed to bring the world down around our ears yesterday will seem like a joke after a few years. Remember the time when you had a crush on a cute guy from your school and your friend ratted it out in front of the whole class, you would have thought that the world will end, today that seems like a joke and you laugh. Keep remembering, such incidents will seem plenty in your life.
All the jokes apart, sometimes these silly little things make a huge impact in our life. At such time, everything seems tilted on an axis. We feel angry and lost, but the prudent thing to remember would be that nothing remains same forever, as the time passes all relationships undergoes a change, sometimes for better and most of the times for worse. At times you have lost a relationship without even realizing that it’s gone. By the time you realize this, it’s already too late to do any kind of damage control. Then the process of all your private little details start becoming public. This hurts, but then what we should have realized is that nothing is constant.
The things to learn from it all is that, trust will always turn on you. The intelligent thing would be to never let anyone know what is personal to you. Things you don’t want anyone to know, don’t tell it to anyone. Sometimes its better to be your own confidante. Life is lot simpler when you don’t have to keep looking over your back.
I wrote a simple line, which explains my thought on this matter:
“I felt a knife sticking in my back, the stinging pain bought tears to my eyes,
But I smiled when I turned back; after all it was my best friend guarding my back”
I read a novel sometime back, it said,
“Kabhi Vishwas nahin karoo, kyunki vishwas main hi vish ka vas hota hai. Jahan vishwas hota hai, wahin vishwasghaat hota hai”
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